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Thank you, Zander! I hope you’re doing well.

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Nov 27, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein, Reid Newton

Deeply powerful. Deeply beautiful. Your story captures the incredibly challenging and often lonely threading-of-the-needle that so many of us are trying to do. The world has gone mad. Thank you for sharing your story.

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Dec 1, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein, Reid Newton

An absolutely splendid and powerful piece, Reid. Thank you so much for bringing us into your world and sharing your vulnerability and courage. As someone who has had a thoroughly integrated friend group throughout my life, I so relate to your experience of alienation, confusion and disorientation as relationships have been tested and frayed by forces beyond our control. I love and respect that you have the strength and maturity to remain true to your principles: looking beyond color and seeing the soul inside. I am so proud to know you, and we in FAIR are truly fortunate to have you in our lives.

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Dec 3, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein

More of this, please. The true measure of our society will be realized once we all learn to see each other inside out.

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Nov 29, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein, Reid Newton

You found love. Bravo!

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Nov 27, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein, Reid Newton

Beautiful... thank you Reid for being so open :)

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Nov 27, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein, Reid Newton

So great to learn more about your journey, Reid. I look forward to hearing the interview.

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Dec 4, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein

So beautiful and tragic and indicative of the race based seperation that forced so many into their seperate tribes. But love always wins in the end!

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Dec 3, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex

Many of us see this change occurring from the top down, wondering how anyone could actually believe the colour (can you tell I'm Canadian?) of one's skin is at least as important as the quality of one's character. Didn't we already have a civil rights movement to put these stereotypes back in the closet?

It is extraordinarily refreshing to see this change through your eyes from the ground up. This is what the change looks like and feels like to those who are on the front lines of living it everyday. Thank you so much for enriching me with your experiences. We will et through this because we have to get through this and because people like you will help bring it about.

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Nov 30, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Reid Newton

Congratulations on your upcoming proposal! You’ve got this!

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Nov 29, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Reid Newton

Thank you for sharing your experience and glad to hear it ends on a positive for you! I found people, especially 2020 and beyond, were more than willing to act as judge, jury and executioner based on superficial characteristics like race, gender, sexuality and political identification without knowing someone’s experience and character.

I was someone who supported a lot of under appreciated talent, including from historically marginalized groups, but I eventually felt unwelcome or uncomfortable due to rhetoric from these individuals or the leadership in these spaces. These spaces either closed or significantly downsized... On a brighter note, in my experience at least, things have really cooled down in the past couple years from the peak of the madness and I found new community and learned to further live by my values. Thanks for being open and I hope your journey continues to bear fruit!

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Nov 28, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex, Joseph (Jake) Klein, Reid Newton

Looking forward to the interview. Amazing essay.

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Thoroughly enjoyed reading the article and happiness for your bond.

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Feb 23·edited Feb 23Liked by Salomé Sibonex

Very powerful read, thank you for sharing this story! It really hit home for me as someone who believes that race as a social construct is harmful. This story illustrates some of the reasons why. Reid, I'm so glad that you found aligned love and that your childhood friends will be their for you when you get married.

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Dec 9, 2023Liked by Salomé Sibonex

Such a profound human story. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your authentic voice. This is the only way we will heal the divisions in our country - to tell our stories and share our humanity. I can not wait until this mind virus has run it's course and we find our way back to each other again. Each story is a step in that direction…

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